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At some stage we all face problems in our relationship. If they go as a far as betraying our spouse, this is a sign that immediate action is required in order to save the relationship. Most of the times we get back on our feet and promise our partner that things will be different this time - that we are changing for the good.

But how can we tell that this change is for real? Is it just a short-term change or will it last? How can we tell that our partner is really changing?

These are some questions that you may keep asking yourself. The following 16 signs will help you to decide if the changes are for real:

1. You notice a different behavior: Inactivity turns into activity, haste turns into calmness, detachment turns into commitment.

2. You will be repeatedly surprised by your partner and might be thinking: “Interesting, this is news for me, but it is just great! I love it, that was an excellent idea”.

3. Your partner is becoming more interested in you and is also actively interested in the evolution of your relationship.

4. You are noticing a major change in your relationship, the rhythm has changed, is not the same anymore, is kind of effortless and without so much stress.

5. The tone of your partner’s voice is changing when he/she is talking to you - it is somehow more affectionate than ever before.

6. All those situations when you feel that you are vulnerable seldom occur and if they do, they are not that intense. Also you now seem to have the ability to go through these times more effectively and rapidly.

7. Your instinct is letting you know that everything is all right. You start to trust your instincts more and more.

8. Your partner seems to have more interests and ideas. Your partner is driven much more by inner needs and desires and not so much by the influence of other people or certain events. He/she is having new passions and hobbies and enjoys his/her job more.

9. The changes appear to be more likely to last. There is more consistency in the relationship, less drifting and it appears that things are more and more on the right path.

10. There is an increased interest for family and good friends.

11. He/she is not saying things like: “I’ll give you my word on…”, “I’ll try…”, “I’m planning to…”.

12. There are no more situations of yelling and crying and other similar things. There are no more excuses and the both of you are doing the best you can to change and improve things.

13. You are not accusing each other anymore. You both agree that you are both responsible for your actions.

14. There is a constant, close and proper eye-contact.

15. Your partner is taking care of his/her well-being, both physically and mentally. You can both express what you need and want and meet halfway. At the same time your own personal desires and needs are also valued.

16. You are no longer worrying that much about the future and what might happen next.