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“I love you” - These are three simple words that can really hit you if they are properly used.
The truth is that some people find it extremely hard to say these words. Some beat around the bush for a while before they will eventually say them. Then there are those who frequently use these words without truly meaning it. In the end it doesn’t really make a difference if you say the magic words or not, what is really important is that the relationship is based on honesty and joy.
So what makes a relationship work and last? There are a three aspects that form the foundation of relationships and make them work (and last), regardless of whether it is between lovers, relatives, colleagues or business associates. When one of these aspects is not in place, the foundation of the relationship will tumble.
The three aspects are called “The Relationship Tripod”. Let’s talk about them for a bit.
The Companionship Aspect
You are certainly well aware that a relationship requires two people in order to be called a relationship. You must have a connection with the other person and enjoy each other’s presence. This is the essence for a long-lasting relationship. It doesn’t make sense to just be together without connecting with each other.
The lack of interest for each other will result in the failure of the relationship. Your partner needs to be aware of how you feel. Show some kindness and warmth, something that truly expresses your love. Regardless of who is giving you affection, you have to give the other person something in return. We all have to play our roles in a relationship, it is a constant give and take.
The Compromise Aspect
As stated above, a relationship is based on constantly giving and taking. We are not all alike, even if two people seem to be strikingly similar, there are probably a few minor differences that might be enough to start a debate about them. You must be a able to settle a dispute, no matter what it is all about, even if this means that you’ll eventually have to give in. Someone has to “win” and someone has to “lose”. It’s that simple and that is why it is crucial to talk about these differences.
But what is the nature of these differences? And who should give in to solve the problems and disputes that they cause? Giving in every now and then doesn’t mean that you are a loser, instead it can be a sign of how significant the relationship is for you. The simple words “You seem to be right” can be very relieving for yourself and for the relationship!
The Communication Aspect
Simply put, when there is no communication, there is no talk about differences, no signs of love and no words to be said. Communication enables us to say the right words at the right time. The first two aspects would not exist if the last one wasn’t there. A slight improvement in communication can greatly contribute to having a better relationship.
There are many simple and small things that can be done to improve the communication, a short letter or a quick email every now and then will do the trick. Don’t overlook the aspect of communication as many relationships drift apart due to the lack of contact between the partners.
Let’s take the case of a long distance relationship as an example. Some of them fail and some of them are success stories, and this is only because of the partner’s contact with each other. Don’t forget that even business partners are maintaining close contact by sending out reports and updates to each other.
Relationships are full of surprises, some of them are pleasant and some of them are not. But that’s how life is, unpredictable and exciting. That’s the beauty of it, to discover life one step at a time. If you are looking for an easy way to make a relationship work and last, you will be disappointed, because there is no such thing. Effort and work is required from everyone who is involved in it.
